Rekindle Passion With Bedroom Role-Play

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It can happen to any relationship.  Eventually, things fall into a routine.  We get predictable and lose the mystery and magic that makes our hair tingle and our heart race.  That’s OK.  It has to happen.  Every day can’t be magic.  Sadly tho, what many couples report is, the magic has left entirely. And boring sex is the most repeated complaint.  

Everyone wants the magic back.  That thrill of a first kiss.  The early touches with a mysterious person you are flirting with.  What most couples don’t realize is that the largest sex organ in our bodies is our MIND.  Those early sparks you had with your partner before you got physical were so powerful. That’s because they were mental connections (as well as physical).  I’m here to help reveal to you some magic tricks you might not have tried yet.

Role-Play Sex

Imagine that you and your lover are going to be alone on an island for the rest of your lives.

Not a desert island, but an island that you would choose to live on. There are fruit and berries to eat and beaches and thunderstorms too. But you are not allowed to bring anything with you. No clothes, nothing. Just you and your partner alone to survive the climate of whatever island you’ve chosen to inhabit. How long could you stay on that island before retreating to the mainland? If I offered you a book of matches so that you could light a fire, would that help you? You bet it would.

Fire is warm and bright. It maintains life in many ways. Now you and your partner have the warmth and security that fire provides. With the comfort of the fire, you can talk together at night. Evening time is together time. It allows you to do other things like cook food so that it tastes better. But remember, you only have one book of matches. Some of you may say, “No problem, we know how to start a fire. Now imagine a couple that neither of them knows much about how to start a fire. They’ve got a dozen good opportunities to turn sparks in flame and then it’s over. Which is just what happens to this couple.

It only took a few matches before the first fire was lit. But keeping the fire going was hard work, and they didn’t really understand the “skills” of fire-making. Eventually, they got lazy and sidetracked, and their first fire went out. Every few years after, they would strike a match and hope to see flames coming from it. But every time, the match lit up bright, burned hot and then quickly fizzled into nothing. “Useless matches.” One partner shrugs and tosses the matchbook.

They still continued to live on the island together. There just wasn’t any fire to keep company with. The night time is colder and quieter. How tempting it must have been for her to see fire on the other islands. The laughter and the dancing from other couples at night were a constant reminder that her fire was out. Eventually, she felt as though she needed fire in her life again and decided to swim off the island in search of someone else with matches.

If you haven’t guessed my analogy yet, the island is symbolic of marriage. It is where we have both chosen to live out our days. The matches are the sparks of romance that set forth a chain reaction turning flame into a fire. The honeymoon phase is the first fire that you light. It starts easy and feels great. The fire is symbolic of our intimacy with each other. That means emotional and sexual. Without intimacy, the nights are quiet, and there is no security on the island.

Some of you know exactly how to build and maintain a fire with healthy flames. It continues to burn brightly as long as you keep feeding it.
Now, some of you may not be so experienced in fire-making. After all, there is a science to it, and no one ever did sit you down and teach you the skills of building a fire. It’s not a rare skill. Owning fire is a privilege that humans have passed down their generations from day one. It’s just that you may never have needed to build your own fire. Well, let me tell you this; If you are married or in a committed monogamous relationship you are figuratively on an island together. And if intimacy with each other is not keeping you together, your figurative fire is dwindling down to small flames.

When I was a small boy, my dad walked with me into the forest and told me he was going to show me how to light a fire. I still remember his lesson about tinder, and flammables and feeding it the right amount of oxygen. He then told me to be patient with the logs. “Start with the smallest stuff first, when the coals are hot, add the bigger ones.” My dad gave me all his advice about starting a fire that day. He felt it was a skill that’s essential to life. And he was right. From that day on I was a competent fire maker. And it has saved my life once or twice. So naturally, you might think that my figurative island of marriage also had healthy flames. Not exactly. I did not have the same fire skills on my island of marriage. We have dealt with smouldering coals and smoky wet wood like any other couple.

We have been on our island together for the last 16 years and over time we have learned to develop the skills of fire-making. We’ve gotten burned a few times, but now we have learned our best technique for starting fires. We’ve come a long way from just striking matches. Thru trial and error, we’ve learned the Do’s and Don’ts for using matches to light a fire. If you don’t have any fire building experience, I can help pass down these valuable lessons. Like my father passed down to me his best method of starting a real fire, I want to save you the struggles of learning it alone.

Fires Of Passion? Here’s What You’ll Need

  • Emotional Intimacy

Starting the fires of passion begins with emotional connection. This means learning to talk openly and respond with supportive actions. For example, If your wife said she hates telling you to take out the trash, then be proactive and try to foster feelings of appreaciation rather than a policing wife. In doing this, you have shown empathy towards your wife in place of needing to get defensive when she nags about the trash.  This is known as emotionial intellengce. Learn to be an emotionally supportive spouse.  When your spouse carries a sense of appreciation for you, they are focusing on what they have instead of don’t have. Partners who communicate more about what their spouse can offer instead of what they unnecessarily bring will find a smoother transition into passionate love. 

Using a role-play invitation to a Fantasy Weekend made a playful oppertunity for us to have a solid conversation about intimate stuff like sexual desires and turn-ons or offs. It also allowed us to set dates for intimacy. Pre-arranging this means you will be emotionally present during intimacy. As opposed to an after dinner sort of routine effort.

  • Sexual Chemistry

Sex is chemistry. There is a circus of neuro-chemicals and hormones that transpire during the act of sex. This release of hormones during physical bonding is like honey to the hive. We also get it when we hold hands, hug or cuddle. Nicknamed the love hormone, Oxytocin carries many positive effects towards passionate love.


  • Mutual Effort

The saying, “It takes two to Tango” rings true with relationship success as well. This path is a two-person journey. The fruits of your mutual efforts are the sweetest to taste. So remember to keep your efforts mutually desired.

Roleplaying helped us tremendously with keeping both partners actively involved in a passionate date night. Making plans for roleplaying sex means both partners will have some accountability for success. Just like Tango. Participating in a script or scenario means we are both actively participating in courtship.

A New Sense Of Relationship Intimacy

Communicating our sexual desires to our partner may sound frightening, or it may sound exciting. Either way, role-playing offers a unique way to break the ice and make your explorations fun and creative and emotionally connected. We all tend to have different fantasies.  Some generally fantasize about romance and connection, while the other’s fantasies are more explicit and seductive.  These role-play scenarios are here to help combine and calibrate one another’s sexual AND emotional desires.

Fantasy Weekends - Fantasy Fridays

Using this generalization, Fantasy Fridays are focused on romance, connection, and mystery. While Seduction Saturdays are a series of tempting encounters between a wealthy client “Jon Lover” and his call girls.  Each Fantasy scenario is written to involve the physical attraction between you and your partner and an emotional connection as well.  

Role-Play Scenario

We take you on a journey of chance encounters, spontaneous role-play as well as planned foreplay.  Everyone fantasizes but no one knows how to bring it into the open or be supportive about it.  Just download one of the scripts and play out a fantasy to see what level of arousal you experienced.  Then fill out the post-event survey and share your results with your partner.  Together you will learn what roles and scenarios best suit you as a couple.  

Benifits of Role-Play And Fantasy Sex

For us, this date night was the secret love potion that awakens all the right chemistry. A cocktail of dopamine, serotonin and many other “feel good” hormones. It wasn’t just our sex life that deepened with satisfaction.   Communication, understanding, bonded trust and mutual connection are all side effects of couple’s role-play that carried over into our personal relationship too.

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